We all have pain ,sadness,struggles with weight appearance,finance ,health and what not. We are constantly bogged down with worries of what may or may not happen. We worry about family ,their health,their wellbeing.We are not happy every minute of the day. So why is social media is filled up with posts with smiles and best postures and best moments??
Well my explanation is facebook is like a photo album where you only keep the best moments safe. The struggles,the pain,the hardships we face kinda fade away from memory. We look back at our childhood and always caption it happy days.We did cry and fill up diaries and corners of the house to sulk in our miseries then but do we remember that??
Yes i do!! i remember the feelings just like all the happy memories.The reason we do not put all that on display is we worry about judgement.Okay a person who drinks can relate. Rest of you just play along or not.When you are at a high point and feel buzzed we blurt a lot of those repressed feelings or genuinely express how we feel or just let loose in that moment. The next day we wonder ,was i out of control?? They often say stay off social media at times of fun because it is better to enjoy the moment as is in its raw form instead of revisiting it again next day and form unnecassary feelings of fear of judgement. People judge and judge .
I absolutely hate being pictured when i am dancing because that is my letting go moment.I want to be vulnerable and just let go. I don’t want memories of bad pictures or silliness take away from the beauty of a trans like stage i get when i am senselessly swaying to the rhythm and beat .
Life is like a dance . Sometimes what u enjoy might look silly to others but if you enjoy it just keep on doing it . Perfection comes from practice . Perfection is also a perception at times.
Pain is real, Struggles are real and Friendship is real. Go find your friends who will not judge you for who you are what you do. Vent your true feelings. Be a shoulder to lean on. Be an effective listener. Be a source of support. Be vulnerable around them and vice versa.
let life flow,love freely,Experience everything hate,anger,despair,depression,misery and struggles .In times of extreme sadness never lose hope. When happy and content, be grateful. All feelings are not in our control but a positive outlook is.Embracing our pain and struggles is what keeps us real. Social media however is to me going to be a photo album i share with all. What is in it is real happy moments. When i am not so happy i am real too but that i reserve that for myself and my closest friends. If you have met me i am pretty frank in my opinions and thoughts.What you see is what you get.i have also learnt in life -the only opinion that really matters is the person who is on the other side of the mirror. Stay real stay positive even when you face negativity.
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