Self Analysis Relationships & Change

Why is self analysis important in life?? #SELF ANALYSIS #RELATIONSHIP #CHANGE #ATTITUDE

When you look in a mirror you see your lipstick is smudged you fix it , you see your hair etc. you fix it Don’t you??

Why not do self analysis on the way you live your life !! I think we tend to avoid the mirror when it comes to actual life. We see people , like them, become their so called friends. We see their flaws and judge them instantly. Why not look at your own self. Self analysis should be done often when you succeed and when you fail.

Now you might wonder when everything is going good why should I worry or do self analysis. Well when you are successful, you want to remember what attitude of yours brought you here to this moment of happiness and success.You want to duplicate this formula just like any good recipe.

If you fail at something then instead of looking at what is wrong with the world first look in the mirror of life at what point we were wrong. Where was the misstep?? When you fail at relationships and it is not that important blame the person and move on. Good strategy but bad habits follow everywhere it becomes a pattern. I found that if I can find faults with myself  and take responsibility then I  have hope because I need to change me. If I think all is wrong with the world well it is a lost battle. When you try to change yourself it is the hardest thing in the world but with effort it is possible. When you constantly fall in to old paths you end in old places.

Every now and then analyze the place you are in ?? Don’t just live every year like the last!! You have the gift of life everyday you wake  up. Look in the mirror  and just fix it or don’t change a thing.

Relationships

When you look in the mirror you also see what others see in you. As I am growing up i feel that it is important for me to just see if i like myself or not. But in a relationship you need to also see another point of view.If you always think of yourself and your problems your success. The other person might feel neglected and move on. All relationships need to be both sides or a two way street. A good relationship of any kind requires effort and consistent. You can be unconditional at first but if you get nothing back emotionally monetarily or educationally, chances are it might now survive.If you are in a good relationship with your own self that is okay too. It depends on what you want in your life.You are great gift giver but your attitude is very self centred that is another sign it will soon go downhill. Treat others with the same respect and sincerity you expect back.Communication is key . Miscommunication gives rise to misunderstanding leading to mistrust. You can never ever recover from mistrust.If you consider a person a friend then be a friend or else you might be reduced to an acquaintance level or worst stranger. A friend specially a good one should be easy maintenance, a good phone call or text now and then and a good meeting  when you both hv time should be good enough. If you leave them hanging without any communication or explanation they have nothing to go on. They might not think ill of you but might not like the disrespect. A good friend always knows when to stop prying and when to open the bottle of wine. When you don’t want others to pry and have your own private life then do not expect to pry and intrude on to theirs. Best friends is a place of sanctity. If someone gave you that place,learn to respect it. Self centred people have failed relationships even with their own selves. Relationships bring happiness and fulfilment.If you can’t handle it then don’t be in one.

Change

Change is the second stage to self analysis

If you do not like the reflection in the mirror change it! Don’t like the surrounding reflections ,change it. Change in oneself and relationships happens automatically . Change in oneself is called personal growth and is required part of life. Change in relationships happens as well.Some get stronger some become weaker and fade away. Do not fret of the loss because it was meant to be.When a person stands by you through thick and thin, you value that relationship and give your appreciation . When they need you you are there for them. Relationships are like a drive test. One critical error can change the results. You got twenty things right made one or two critical errors, it’s done . Similar to driver’s license relationships can be revoked. Do not ever ignore or neglect relationships or blame it on your change. If you change don’t expect the surroundings to bethe same or constant. Every action in life has a reaction. Calculate every word spoken every deed. If you have a few successful relationships be it family or friends , you my friend are a happy and fun person.😃😃

I think I have made by point on this topic.

Cheers!! Live life because it is a gift!!

Jamuna Hari